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3: Arguments in Long-Term Relationships: The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly
In this episode, Amanda and Kelby dive into the complexities of arguments within long-term relationships. They discuss how childhood experiences and inner child wounds often resurface during disputes with partners. The hosts emphasize the importance of self-awareness, communication, and compassion in navigating these inevitable misunderstandings.

2: How Your Partner Can Trigger (and Help You Heal) Childhood Wounds
In this episode, Amanda and Kelby explore how our romantic partners can trigger and also help us to heal childhood wounds. They share personal insights and experiences on how early life experiences and relationships with our parents can shape romantic relationships.

125: What is EMDR and How EMDR Can Help You on the Healing Journey with Kelly Schooner
In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory.

1: Introducing Love Under the Scope - Meet Amanda Durocher & Kelby Knutt
In this inaugural episode, Amanda Durocher and Kelby Knutt share why they decided to start this podcast where they will be exploring the nuances and “nitty-gritty” of long-term relationships. They also highlight how this podcast will be a place for open conversations about the often unseen and unspoken challenges within relationships.

124: Feeling Frustrated: What to Do When Overwhelmed with Frustration
In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it.

123: Loneliness After an Affair: How to Forgive Yourself for Cheating
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves.

122: What Does It Mean if I Fail at Love?
In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections.

121: Too Good to be True?: Why Fear & Anxiety Arise When Life is Good
What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true?

120: Why Am I Scared of Love?
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.”

119: How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming.

118: Healing from Rape: Realities of Surviving Sexual Violence with Kate Chisholm
For this episode, I am joined by special guest, Kate Chisholm, founder of Survivors RISE, for a candid discussion about the realities of healing and surviving rape. We discuss our personal journeys of healing from rape and sexual violence, and Kate shares her story surviving rape, as well as her experience going through the criminal justice system and the impact of institutional betrayal. The episode also highlights the importance of community support, empathy, and various healing modalities we have used.

117: “good” vs “bad” therapy: How to find a good therapist with Katie Landrum
In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences. We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist.

116: Prioritizing Mental Health: Amanda's Thoughts on 2024 & Suggestions for Improving Mental Health
In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media.

115: Holiday Season Sadness & Depression: Embracing Self-Love & Reconnecting with Your Inner Child
Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with your inner child to rediscover holiday magic, and practice self-love. We also discuss the importance of taking care of yourself this holiday season.

114: How to Be Comfortable with Physical Touch After Sexual Assault
In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the importance of being kind to yourself, how to practice awareness and listening to your body, and reconnecting to your body .

113: Repressed Memories of Childhood Trauma: How to Trust Yourself & Your Body
In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process.

112: Why Do I Seek Parental Validation as an Adult?
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I discuss how so often our need for parental validation and approval is tied to deep rooted human fears, including the fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment, the fear of criticism, and the fear of being unlovable.

111: Sexual Assault by a Family Member: Navigating Family Relationships After Trauma
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navigate this situation and get support from their family. Navigating relationships with family and friends after sexual assault often feels scary, uncomfortable, overwhelming, and uncertain. It becomes even more complicated when the perpetrator of the abuse is intertwined within the family.

110: Should I Stay or Should I Leave?
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and controlling in the past. When she told him that she was leaving the relationship, he begged for a second chance and did start to change his behavior. Now, the listener is having trouble deciding if she should stay or leave the relationship.

109: Embracing Creativity as a Trauma Survivor: Let the Pressure Go & Begin Creating
In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a religious cult trauma survivor and wants to be a film writer / director, but is struggling with putting too much pressure on themselves to tell their story the “right” way.I