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7: Sex After the Honeymoon Phase: The Ups & Downs of Sex in Long-Term Relationships
In this episode, Amanda and Kelby discuss the dynamics of connection and disconnection within long-term relationships. The episode highlights the role of vulnerability in creating genuine connections with your partner and how small moments of intentional connection can deepen relationships over time. They emphasize that building a strong, loving relationship is about making a conscious effort to connect. They also discuss common obstacles that can lead to disconnection - such as cellphones, work, busy schedules, and more.
128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship?
6: Connecting with Your Partner: Exploring Connection & Disconnection in Long-Term Relationships
In this episode, Amanda and Kelby discuss the dynamics of connection and disconnection within long-term relationships. The episode highlights the role of vulnerability in creating genuine connections with your partner and how small moments of intentional connection can deepen relationships over time. They emphasize that building a strong, loving relationship is about making a conscious effort to connect. They also discuss common obstacles that can lead to disconnection - such as cellphones, work, busy schedules, and more.
127: Why Talking About Sexual Assault is Hard & Tools to Help You Begin
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you.
5: How Softening in Your Relationship Creates Ease: Embracing the Feminine
In this episode, Amanda and Kelby explore how to soften in long-term relationships. They discuss the journey from a “hardened” state to embracing a softer, more feminine energy within romantic partnerships. The conversation delves into how softening fosters trust, safety, and support. Sharing personal stories and real-life examples, Amanda and Kelby reflect on how their past experiences and healing journeys have helped them let go of control and embrace vulnerability.
126: What to Do When Things Don't Go According to Plan
In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost and feelings of heartbreak, disappointment, and just like nothing would go my way. I discuss the challenges of suppressed memories, how to pivot after a creative “failure”, not being where I want to be, and how to find the gifts in the tough chapters of life. I also discuss self-doubt and how self-doubt can feel crippling, but you can trust yourself.
4: What is Love? Taking a Closer Look
In this episode, Amanda and Kelby dive into the complexities of arguments within long-term relationships. They discuss how childhood experiences and inner child wounds often resurface during disputes with partners. The hosts emphasize the importance of self-awareness, communication, and compassion in navigating these inevitable misunderstandings.
3: Arguments in Long-Term Relationships: The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly
In this episode, Amanda and Kelby dive into the complexities of arguments within long-term relationships. They discuss how childhood experiences and inner child wounds often resurface during disputes with partners. The hosts emphasize the importance of self-awareness, communication, and compassion in navigating these inevitable misunderstandings.
2: How Your Partner Can Trigger (and Help You Heal) Childhood Wounds
In this episode, Amanda and Kelby explore how our romantic partners can trigger and also help us to heal childhood wounds. They share personal insights and experiences on how early life experiences and relationships with our parents can shape romantic relationships.
125: What is EMDR and How EMDR Can Help You on the Healing Journey with Kelly Schooner
In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory.
1: Introducing Love Under the Scope - Meet Amanda Durocher & Kelby Knutt
In this inaugural episode, Amanda Durocher and Kelby Knutt share why they decided to start this podcast where they will be exploring the nuances and “nitty-gritty” of long-term relationships. They also highlight how this podcast will be a place for open conversations about the often unseen and unspoken challenges within relationships.
124: Feeling Frustrated: What to Do When Overwhelmed with Frustration
In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it.
123: Loneliness After an Affair: How to Forgive Yourself for Cheating
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves.
122: What Does It Mean if I Fail at Love?
In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections.
121: Too Good to be True?: Why Fear & Anxiety Arise When Life is Good
What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true?
120: Why Am I Scared of Love?
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.”
119: How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming.
118: Healing from Rape: Realities of Surviving Sexual Violence with Kate Chisholm
For this episode, I am joined by special guest, Kate Chisholm, founder of Survivors RISE, for a candid discussion about the realities of healing and surviving rape. We discuss our personal journeys of healing from rape and sexual violence, and Kate shares her story surviving rape, as well as her experience going through the criminal justice system and the impact of institutional betrayal. The episode also highlights the importance of community support, empathy, and various healing modalities we have used.
117: “good” vs “bad” therapy: How to find a good therapist with Katie Landrum
In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences. We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist.
116: Prioritizing Mental Health: Amanda's Thoughts on 2024 & Suggestions for Improving Mental Health
In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media.
