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In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory.

In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves.

In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections.

What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true?

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.”

In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming.

For this episode, I am joined by special guest, Kate Chisholm, founder of Survivors RISE, for a candid discussion about the realities of healing and surviving rape. We discuss our personal journeys of healing from rape and sexual violence, and Kate shares her story surviving rape, as well as her experience going through the criminal justice system and the impact of institutional betrayal. The episode also highlights the importance of community support, empathy, and various healing modalities we have used.